Turning children into stiffs
So this is what we do with our children, even these days. The adults are allowed to yell and be nasty - the child not. Still has to obey and be polite and respectful because they are adults and the child not. The child is forced to apoligize even if he isn't sorry - teaching the kid this way that it is all about 'form' and not about honesty, living expression and real respect. The adults do not have to apologize to the kids. The adult is always right - so not!