Bully

Dj is being bullied now at school and on the way home from school. Last week he came home, upset and ran to the bathroom. Spit all over his face. This 3 boys from school and living in our neighbourhood did that to him - they even held them so the other could spit him in the face effectively. this morning Dj was afraid to go to school, because he was afraid getting hit by the others.

The real bully of these 3 boys has been Dj's best friend for years. He is a really nasty boy, hateful and manipulative. A being that enjoys manipulating other kids in doing something 'bad', together with him, but he always makes sure the other kid gets the blame (and punishment). and now he is manipulating the kids in school to hit Dj.

Dj has always been a popular boy in school - most of the kids liked him and wanted to play with him. About one and a half years ago he changed schools - but this is new, the bullying part. The core of it that Dj doesn't play any more with this boy for a couple of months now. I was the one forcing this friendship to come to an end, because all those years they were friends lots of these nasty things happened - he influenced Dj to do and say things that got Dj in trouble: Dj getting all the blame and this boy, well, his parents are in fact supporting him in this behaviour by not willing to face what nasty boy their son has become. They most of the time believe his version of the story and start yelling at others (including other kids), even threat with violence - and when not falling for his manipulated version of what happened, he gets hardly any punishment or direction. So this boy can do whatever he wants.

And now he picked Dj to project his own frustration and anger on.

  • What a motherfucker, buy djoere a tazer :) -> Initial reaction

    I see bully in the perspective of the stronger abusing the weaker in my neighbor plenty of times, and I am frustrated because I cannot make the 3years-5years older stop beating the little ones for everything...

    In this school case I would told him that he doesn't need friends and that he doesn't really need to have a relation with any of the beings that the abuser manipulate, telling him to find a "clean" one to talk/play. If he approach the "infected by this abuser" kids he will be abused in some way. However it will change with time, when the other boys will get tired of the abuser control over them. So basically is to tell Djoere to stay away from this guy and the others that agree with his behavior towards him, real physical distance to 'see them coming' and not fall into their 'evil plans'

    Ruben, my perspective.

  • And this one also: Tell him to not care or fall in the trap of reacting to the kids open judgments/insults by telling him that if he reacts and go for him, for instance, he will be doing exactly what that kids want him to do. (This one I told to a 11years old neighbor, and it seems useful to me although I know that his ego is not allowing him to apply it) SF on ego? =)

    wow I am directing others instead of directing me, how easy is talking/writing

    well right now I am not trusting what what I've said in the last paragraph and I also bullied, not really physically (sometimes) but physiologically... So I just judged myself as a motherfucker.

    Much points to transcend

    Much past shit

    Much mind talk

    Much mind mind

    Much mind control

    ...

    MIND

    Need to do more SF

  • lol Ruben, yes, my initial reaction was similar hahaha show this nasty kid your fists lol
    Me as and in mother matrix trap wants to keep Djoere safe and unharmed from these nasty people (kids&adults)I think I even cared more about what happened than Djoere himself (though he didn't like it ofcourse)

    But actually Djoere is much wiser than me: he decided on his own to just ignore this kid. It seems he is backing off now, this bully. Well, we'll see what's next :)

    Thanks for commenting

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